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You Just Remember What Your Old Pal Said…

I have so much to write about.  I also have a daughter that just woke up with the whines and a squeaky noisy boy trying to climb on stuff.  I’ll be back in a while I guess.

Four years ago yesterday:

Do you, Carla, accept the love of Daniel and take him to be your wedded husband?

“I do.”

Will you love him, honor him, cherish him, and sustain him in all circumstances of life, so long as you both shall live?

“I will.”

“I, Carla, take thee, Daniel, to keep from this day forward, for better or for worse, for joy or sorrow, for richer or poorer, to love and cherish, till death us do part, according to God’s holy Word.”

That’s what I said, four years ago yesterday.

I’m sticking with my decision.  Though I failed, at the time I made the vows, to fully understand what I was promising, as I was selfishly marrying the handsomest man in the universe in order to keep him for myself, I still intend to keep them after going through the past four years of unexpected joys and sorrows.  All of which have turned out to be blessings, each and every one.

I’ve learned a lot about love, loyalty, forgiveness, and trust in the last four years.  I’ve had a lot of selfishness chipped away from my soul, through this oneness that God has created.  I assume He has plenty more to chip away at.  Carve me, Lord.

I love you, Father, and I love this man you have given to me.  Thank you so very much for your blessings.

How did we celebrate?  Redbox, Zinfandel, and M&ms.


Wouldn’t have it any other way.

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The Farsighted See Better Things…

As promised, here is my second post of the art work that I did for my other friend, Breehan.  She won the contest of “guess how big around Chibi’s baby bump is”.  So, realizing I had no prize for said contest, I promised to make her a piece of art for her new place like the ones I made for Chibi’s nursery.

I asked her if she had been reading anything in particular in the Bible recently, and she responded with this:

“I don’t have anything in particular, though I’ve been in Ephesians.  And since I think I know why you are asking, I would like to add that I like owls and green and purple.”

Then, the next day, I was going through the available magazines in the waiting room at the chiropractor’s office and stumbled upon the owl edition of something hunting related.  This little owl chick just had to be the one.  So, I asked if I could take her home with me and they said yes.  🙂


Then she sat staring at me from my magnet board in the kitchen for a long time, just because I liked having her around.  She’s so kyute.

When I finally had a moment to work on the project away from the kiddos, I got all excited.  I placed all the paper patchwork style underneath.  Then I positioned her, and started painting the branch.

Then my paint pen ran out of ink!  >.<

I improvised a lot to make that silly branch turn out ok.  But I like the end product.

Halfway through, I decided I didn’t like the first verse I picked out.  Since we had just been to Passion 2012 together, Ephesians held some real significance for us all recently.  We all read through the entire thing one night during one of the sessions.  Also, since she had picked an owl, I wanted it to have some meaning as well.  As opposed to just being a cute owl taking up space.  My friend is also struggling, just like all of us, to be a light in a fallen world.  I figure owls live the majority of their lives in the dark as a nocturnal species.  God designed them to be able to see by reflecting the light that is available to them.  So the message of this piece is that we ought to keep our eyes on Jesus, in order to be able to “see in the dark” and simultaneously be reflecting Him back into the world that we live in.


For at one time you were darkness, but now you are light in the Lord. Walk as children of light (for the fruit of light is found in all that is good and right and true), and try to discern what is pleasing to the Lord. Take no part in the unfruitful works of darkness, but instead expose them. For it is shameful even to speak of the things that they do in secret. But when anything is exposed by the light, it becomes visible, for anything that becomes visible is light. Therefore it says,
“Awake, O sleeper,
and arise from the dead,
and Christ will shine on you.”
(Ephesians 5:8-14 ESV)


So, there you have it.  My third piece.  🙂  I love you, Bree!

Oh, and another cool thing about this one, is that the board was salvaged.  It was packing material for the bunkbed my daughter sleeps in.  I thought it would make a good piece of art someday, and I’m glad I kept it around.


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Anyone Else Would See Weeds…

So my friend somewhat commissioned my barely existent art skills to do a, hmm… I don’t even know what to call it, but a copy-cat of this lady’s work: PitterPatterArt. for her soon to be born (actually just arrived three days ago!!!) daughter.  At the baby shower when I gave it to her I got a high-five and a legitimately grateful smiling face.  Worth all the midnight oil I burned on it, seriously.  😀

I also ran a game at her shower which I did not have a prize prepared for.  (I fly by the seat of my pants so well.)  So, I promised the winner, who is also a good friend, that I would make her one too.  Here’s the work.  Don’t scrutinize it too closely, but I am pretty happy with them both.  🙂  I hand cut, ripped, wrote, inked, and painted every bit of these myself.  Then, I used mod-podge to seal it all together.

I learned a lot from making them.  I learned that I am more productive at 3AM than 9PM.  I learned how to antique, which took a lot of trial and even more error.  Consequently, my husband learned that, “It looks like someone smeared poop on it,” is not an appropriate response to “Does it look ok, or should I try again?”  (I redid the entire bottom half after that response.)  I learned from the non-antiqued one (which I like much more) that I cannot cut out an elephant in both directions, only facing left.  So, the mommy-phant had to be cut out a second time, and with the paper turned around backwards.

I’ll post the other friend’s one separately.  Coming soon!  😀


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And as The Years Go by, Our Friendship Will Never Die…

Have I mentioned that I absolutely love my best friend, Tiffany?  We’ve been through so much together, and it seems we keep having more to go through even still.  I found myself praying this morning that God would just please let me keep her as my friend through all the stuff that will continue to happen.  It’s amazing how honest we can be with each other and there are no hurt feelings.  I really don’t think this is possible without the Holy Spirit being in both of our lives.  So, the prayer was worthwhile.  I really do love her, and want to share as much of the rest of my life as possible with her, but I also really want to watch God work amazing things in her life as well.  I pray that this will continue, and that through any difficulty that arises, we will grow closer, not apart.

This is not her.

Together Forever as Couples and Friends.

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You still know how many hairs are on my head…

I have this week had two very refreshing encounters with some women in my life.  Both Maki Bayard and Breehan Pfeiffer shared their testimonies with me, which greatly encouraged and strengthened me as a Christian.

Maki and I had set out to have a Bible study together, but we were the only ones who showed up.  It was sad for both of us, but we decided to pray for the people who did not come and then spent the time encouraging each other with what God is doing in our lives.  It was time well used!  In hearing her testimony, it was nice to hear something different than what I am accustomed to, but the thing that surprised me was how similar it is even to mine.  How interesting that God uses very different situations in everyone’s lives but that they are similar seasons of good and bad times that we all go through as God pulls us closer to Him.

Breehan’s testimony I expected to be similar to mine, and it was familiar to me as she told it.  Grew up in church.  Pulled a John the Baptist.  (In a position where everyone looked to her as “the Christian” she still had doubts and went to Christ to get the answers.  Luke 7:20  It’ll catch on.)  Got saved.  God brings her closer to Him.

I shared my testimony with her too.  It was so wonderful to relate how God has changed me over the years.  However, the most interesting thing related to a question she had.  I have no doubt whatsoever that the answer was not my own but prompted by the Holy Spirit.  She asked how to deal with attraction and admiration of a person without it becoming a sin.

Looking back over my life, the best relationship positively fitting this situation, that I could remember, was between me and Tanner.  I had a huge crush on him and admired him greatly.  We never dated.  All through my years growing up though, I thought very highly of him and wanted to at the very least stay his friend.

I consider how I am still friends with him to this day, and that his wife is my absolute best friend ever, and how much joy it gives me to see them together serving the Lord as a couple.  It just blows me away how God has kept this relationship intact and still blesses me through it.

I remembered how I had prayed for him- “God bless Tanner” in this area or that.  “God make Tanner better at the guitar.”  “God give Tanner courage to step up to the microphone.”  “God give Tanner some humility.”  “God give Tanner a good wife.”

This doesn’t mean that I never hoped that that “wife” might be me, because I did.  I do, however, very acutely remember telling God that if He didn’t give me Tanner, that I expected Him to have someone even better suited for me than I thought Tanner was.  My literal prayer was “If it’s not Your will for us to be together, I know that You have someone even better waiting for me, and I will wait on You.”  I prayed that kneeling in the brown carpet floor of my bedroom with tears in my eyes listening to Nicole Nordeman singing “Small Enough” in the background.

Looking back, God has answered all of those prayers!

Tanner is the leader of praise and worship in the simulcast service at church.  His guitar skills and voice have improved.  He has grown in courage and become a leader in our church. and he is much more humble.  Oh.  And his wife?  She’s beautiful, kind, and generous.  I love her.

Now, I’m not perfect.  I have at least two other relationships in my past that God taught me a lesson the hard way with.  I can rejoice that God has healed me and forgiven me when I look back on those times.  I assure you, though, that prayer was lacking in my relationships with those people, and that’s very likely why those relationships had to end the hard way.


So, I told Breehan to turn her admiration of anyone in her life into prayer.  Whatever she saw that she appreciated in a person- pray that God will use it for His glory/ that God will strengthen the person in that area or skill/ that God will keep that person close to Him and away from sin.  That way she has a pure outlet for the admiration she feels and she can love the person in a holy way, by lifting them up to God in prayer.

Trust me.  This was not something that I conjured up of my own intelligence.  This was the Holy Spirit giving her advice through me and allowing me to rejoice in how He has worked in my life.

Thank you God for the times You have let me fall and thank you Lord for the times that You have saved me from falling!  Everything You have orchestrated to be woven together in an intricate and beautiful story.  All of it has worked out for my good and I praise You, Father, for Your wisdom and sovereignty!


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Can’t Believe It’s Been So Many Years…

Baby Bug met an old friend of mine yesterday.  Not that she’s old, or that she used to be a literal friend.  Actually she used to be my teacher, and it was kind of nice to feel like we were friends now.  I must have become an adult along the way, but don’t worry, I still act like a kid.

It was nice for her to meet my friend, who happens to absolutely adore children.  I also got to enjoy lunch with another lady who was there with us.  We go to the same church but are often so busy we haven’t seen each other in a while.  I would like to hang out with her more.

The conversation was nice.  We discussed what God was doing in everyone’s lives.  The other lady has a 6 week old.  She and I talked about the possibility of starting up an apologetics based Bible study, which I really want to do.

Highlights of the Conversation:

  • Christians need to be better prepared to defend/share their faith.
  • We are designed to live in community, not alone.
  • God is sovereign in all things- our kids belong to Him, and that’s the best place for them to be.
  • God is absolutely dependable.
  • How many prayers have been prayed by multiple people to bring me to where I am.

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